About 2 weeks ago (I’ve had to leave it this long to write about it because Mark was SO mad at himself.) Mark lost his wedding ring. Being a professional athlete he has to take it off every day, twice a day, so it was bound to happen sometime or another. Now, I didn’t get mad at him at all, he was mad enough at himself, but besides that, I wasn’t overly bothered if he wore a ring in the first place or not. I only got him one because I wanted to exchange something on our wedding day, after that it was up to him if he wore it or not. He chose to wear one.
Mark and I are best friends, we both believe we were meant to be together, but if there ever came a time when he decided he didn’t love me, he could find someone else better than me or more suited to him, then as much as it would kill me, it would be his choice to walk away from the life we have together, a wedding ring on his finger isn’t going to stop him. If a woman in a bar or at a volleyball match on the road, or something like that, cornered him to ask for anything other than his autograph, a ring is not going to stop him if he doesn’t have our life together at the top of his priorities in that moment in time.
There are stories in the media almost daily about professional athletes on the road cheating on their wives because they were feeling lonely, needed company…blah blah blah, its a load of crap to me, these guys paint the honest professional athletes in such a bad light. Its not about being lonely on the road, its about self control, respect, trust, commitment, all the things marriage is supposed to be built on, regardless of your job. If you are a male or female who is going to cheat, you’re going to cheat, a ring on your finger is not going to prevent that.
Why should I make, or ask, Mark to wear a wedding ring as a deterrent to other women? So they know he is off the market? He can talk to whoever he likes, as long as its just talking. Right?
(I wear my ring because I’m a girl and I like shiny, pretty things on my fingers….thats exactly my reason why…)
I understand why some people wear a wedding ring, its a symbol of never ending love, but for others its about more than that, its about ownership, possession, its worn for the wrong reasons. Have I got it all wrong?
What are your thoughts Ladies/Gents…do you wear a wedding ring, what’s your reasoning? Are you planning to wear one or do you think like me, that its just not necessary if you don’t want to, or if its just not practical?