I think every new parent gets asked this question at some point in their lives. Its a question that I respond directly with “oh, I don’t know, about 8 years!” and more often than not, get a rather shocked reaction. People always ask if I want my children close in age so they can grow up being friends, etc, and to be honest, that doesnt bother me in the slightest. Mark and his sister are 9 years apart and they get along just fine. My sister and I are twins and she grew up hating me. I don’t think it makes a whole lot of difference how many years apart kids are, if they get along, GREAT, if they don’t, they don’t. Its life, there are no guarentees! Now, if a woman wants to have the children close together so she gets all the body trauma out the way fast, then thats a different story, I totally get that! Its not how I’m doing it but I get it.
I love being a mother to Little Miss, she’s a very easy going little girl who, for the most part, causes us no problems. I love that we can share our life experiences with her and we can make amazing memories and she be part of them. We lead quite a unconventional lifestyle, as you probably know already, and having one child is all I believed we could handle right now.
Last night, Mark and I went to a friends house to catch up with him and his family. BAD IDEA!! He has 2 little girls and both of them are adorable, the oldest is the same age as Little Miss and the youngest one is a little over six months. Now, I have always been so sure that for the moment one child is enough, I just got my body back to where I am comfortable, I’m excited about working again, playing basketball again, putting myself first, being more than just a mum, etc…until last night that is. Whilst Mark and his friend caught up, I sat, for the majority of the night, playing and cuddling his youngest little girl, absolutely sure that I wanted another baby asap! Haha. (Mark got excited at the thought, I could tell he was watching me, a million ideas going through his mind. He would have another one now if I agreed!!)
I know we won’t be having another one for a few more years BUT it will probably be a little shorter wait that 5-7 years!
Do you want to have more kids? If you had your children close together, what was your reasons/motivation? Do you only want one child? Do you love kids but not want any of your own? OR are you a young married couple who get asked all the time when you are having some?
What are your thoughts?