“People will forget what you said
People will forget what you did
But people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Maya Angelou – Conversations with Maya Angelou (1989)
We have a funny little life and I love it. We move around, live all over Europe, meet lots of people from different walks of life. There are some downsides though. The obvious ones, distance and family, but the toughest thing I’ve learnt to deal with is saying goodbye. Wherever we live I know that eventually we will leave the city, leave friends and move on to another city, maybe another country.
Goodbyes are hard, it still hurts sometimes. I don’t cry now though, I’ve been saying goodbye to people and places since I was 18, I’ve got a lot of experience. I’m not hard hearted at all, I’m a big softy if truth be told, I just have to believe that if we are meant to be friends, its not really goodbye, we’ll always be in each others lives, no matter the distance.
Some people I keep in contact with regularly, we are still invested IN each others lives, we are lucky enough to have survived the distance and call each other friend. Some though, I don’t speak to at all but if we crossed paths again, we’d smile, chat and remember the fun times we shared during a period in our lives when we were together, in the same place. I still look on the times we shared together fondly…we were there for each other when we needed it, knowing there was the possibility we wouldn’t make it into each others future didn’t make me less invested in that moment, it doesn’t detract from our memories, they still meant something to me. Those people still mean something to me.
ALL of the friendships I’ve made over the years have meant something to me in some way. They made me feel. Left a footprint on my heart. I’m not able to stop feeling, stop caring, if I like someone, I’m not made like that. I do believe that everyone comes into your life for a reason.
Last night I said goodbye to a friend, at the moment she is en route to visit my friends in Scotland for a week before she heads back to the USA. I’ll miss her. My Little Miss will always run to our door when she hears it knock and shout “Alexis” completely unaware that she won’t be there. That’s going to be hard to explain to my little girl as she gets older, especially if she is anything like me! Alexis, lets make sure we make it into each others future!
What about you, do you find goodbyes hard? Do you have friends who have come and gone but you’ll keep with you forever? Or do you only have a few friends, you don’t bother with people who don’t bring something to your life? I’m interested to know….
Some pictures of the people I’ve met over the years, some closer than others but ALL of them special to me in some way!