I started this blog a few days ago and its already got me thinking about how this blogging world works. Over the past few days I think I’ve spent the majority of my days online reading blogs, writing my own blog or thinking of ideas for my next blog. Is that how its supposed to work? How much time are people investing in blogging?
I have a few amazing friends here in France and a wonderful, strong group of friends at home in Glasgow. The friends I have here in France are fantastic people and although I’ve only known them a short time, our time together has been intense, we are in the same position as expats and we share a lot in common. When Mark and I embarked on this life I wasn’t sure if I would make any friends wherever we went. Over the years I’ve come to terms with the idea that sometimes I can’t have everything I want, we’re sacrificing the small stuff for the bigger goal. Fortunately, here in France friendships aren’t something I’ve had to sacrifice.
I’m a very social person, I enjoy human interaction, adult conversation, I’m ok in my own company too but given the choice I’d choose company. When I’m by myself, I still need connection, mainly the internet.
I think that’s why I’m drawn to this blog so much now. People use blogging as an outlet, somewhere to share, put down their thoughts, get them out of their head. Something that previously I’ve done with my friends at home. I can talk to my friends here but its different. We’re close but we haven’t shared our lives together, grown up together, so there are still some walls around us, something I don’t have with my friends at home. Plus, some stuff just doesn’t come up in conversation on a daily basis, it goes unsaid then its too late, not relevant.
Living abroad means its difficult to connect with friends in the UK regularly. So, I speak to my best friends every day or every other day on the various apps I have on my phone and the other friends, I see whenever I am home, which fortunately is quite a few times a year. Most of the time when we meet up again, its as if I haven’t been away. I’m so lucky. Social media also helps us stay up to date with each others every day activities, which I love. I guess that’s another substitute for human interaction and communication though eh? None the less, I do manage to speak to friends, virtually, even though I’m not physically in their lives at this moment in time. Is that enough?
Well, clearly not, I’m still drawn to this blogging world. Like I said before, I read a lot of blogs. On these blogs I read comments from people who met each other through their blog. They call each other friends. Are they really? Are these real friendships? Virtual ones?
How can people be friends when they haven’t met? Its a little like internet dating, etc….you can tell someone anything you want, be anyone you want from the confines of your own room. Its easy, no-one is judging you for your actions, seeing your vulnerable side, your flaws. These things, I think are what make people friends.
I don’t think anything can substitute laughing in the company of friends, talking out your problems, relaxing with people you feel yourself around. Sometimes though, for me at least, the option to sit in my friends company and laugh/chat isn’t there, that’s where my blog comes in. I can get the stuff out…and they can still hear it. (As well as anyone else who decides to read this blog!!)
Hopefully I don’t get so attached to this virtual world that I start to neglect the real people/relationships in my life.
So Mark, have I been neglecting you already? I’m not sure I want to know the answer!! haha.
What are your thoughts on blogging?